‘I am responsible. Though I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I'm responsible for my attitude towards the misfortunes that darken life. Bad things happen; how I respond to them defines my character. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - LIFE.’- Walter Anderson
Truth is - we cannot control circumstances outside of ourselves.
The only factor that we have any control over is our 'attitude' towards these 'circumstances'. The tsunami in Japan, floods in Australia, tornadoes in the United States - earthquakes, floods, tsunamis and fires are natural disasters of mammoth proportions, amongst many more. People got caught in them. Lives, properties, pets and livelihoods are lost. At the end of the disaster, what is left is - rubble and those who survived - by luck, by chance and by sheer grit and courage. These survivours have a choice - to give up or to build back. We hear enough and more stories of people who gave up and we hear enough and more stories of people who build back again.
The people who have given up have responded by slipping into the helplessness that they have chosen for themselves. They have chosen to believe that re-building is a huge task. They allow fear of what lies ahead to seep in. They hide behind the blames and they pass them around too.
On the other hand people who chose to re-build, have chosen to respond with gratitude and positivity. They have looked at the circumstances pragmatically and considered themselves, as having been given a second chance. They looked back into their lives and decided that if they built once they can surely build again. They chose not to spend time blaming others but to spend time constructively - re-constructing.
What I am talking about above, are the larger events of mammoth proportions that have damaged our smooth life patterns, causing destruction...events that human beings have no (direct) control over.
There are other events and circumstances that scatter around our day to day lives, that damage us and leave us paralyzed - emotionally, sometimes psychologically. A break up, divorce, a separation, an accident, a death, a betrayal, an illness, a dis-ease or a loss - all events that can shatter us emotionally and numb us for a long time to come.
When we choose to slip into the helplessness and taste the bitterness day in and day out - we shut down our lives and hide behind blame, while life moves on.
When we choose to heal, rebuild, feel grateful for what we had and trust our capacity to have that (or something even better) again - We move on in Life.
Choice as always is ours to make.
We can let Life move on or we can choose to move on in life.