"Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings." - Elizabeth Gilbert
All we have to do is understand our loneliness - get in touch with it or with that that we 'perceive' as loneliness. We yearn for that something which is outside of us. We look around and crave to fill that loneliness by various means...we may go on to have a relationship thats one sided and/or toxic...we may fill our time with mindless activities or get ourselves entrapped into addictions. At the end of the day when we go to bed, we still have the same loneliness nagging us and freezing our hearts.
Instead if we were to focus within and get in touch with our deepest self we would perhaps understand that we are complete within ourselves. We have all the resources inside of us to feel happy, fulfilled and COMPLETE. We just need to get comfortable with ourselves and understand what brings on those feeling of 'loneliness' within us.
We do not have to buy into the notion that one needs someone else for fulfillment and completion. Having said that, I must also clarify that I am not promoting a social boycott or becoming a loner . No. Go ahead Make friends ...have fun and by all means share yourself with others...do it to communicate and enrich yourself and others...just don't do it to 'fill' the lonely hours.